I work. I have to work. I’m not just supporting myself. I’m supporting a tribe. I have to supply food, shelter, health care, clothing not only for myself but two whole other people. Not to mention we live in a nice neighborhood. A car for the twins is in the horizon.
At nights, I come home and my littlest sister is cooking dinner for the family. My brother is emtpying the dishwasher to make way for new plates. I ask them about their days but it’s late and they just want to eat and chill out. I can’t help but feel guilty that I’m not there. Not to mention my brother likes to tell me how all the other mom’s are better than me.
I grew up with a stay at home mom and a freelance dad. My dad was a tv and movie director so he’d have months at home and then go out of town for 6 weeks to work. When he was in town- he was all ours. I feel guilty that we have to run off a schedule and Sundays become the day to get things done because week days aren’t an option. I could just ask my dad for a ride to staples for school supplies and it would happen within hours. To be fair- by the time the twins were born, when I was 11, if dad was away even though mom was home Charlotte and I really had to take care of ourselves and the twins as well.
Thing is I’m grateful for having that independence installed in me a few weeks at a time. I was resentful at the time as are the twins now but it’s helped me as an adult on my own and now as a sib raising sibs.
I hope that the twins follow in my footsteps and find joy in work and dedication for whatever they end up doing. I found an article that made me think that for as much as I’d like to be at home (which is not a financial option)- I’m happy that my working long hours is setting a good example for them in the long term and may even have benefits in their future careers. As an older sib raising sibs we are either still in school or starting our career paths. The kids will be okay while we do what we have to do for our education, future, and income.
Stop stressing, working moms. Your child is just fine. Maybe even better than fine.
Daughters of working mothers grow up to be more successful in the workplace than their peers. They earn more and are more likely to be bosses, according to new findings from a Harvard Business School study.